「無我」放下

19/11/2014
很多人說,期望愈大,失望愈大,於是將期望「放下」。然而這不是真正的「放下」期望,而是「放棄」期望,不再追求心中所渴望的。真正的放下,是「拎得起,放得低」。若刻意忘掉某一段關係,那不是放下,因為根本不能拎得起。放下,不是太重而要放低,而是舉重若輕。
自在社所教導的「放下期望,盡情創造」,是全心追求及創造心中所渴望,接受得與失,不預期對方及世事會如自己所願的馬上發生。我還以為這是最高層次,今天看Power of Now,卻驚訝地發現「無我」放下
。頁45-46:
 ”people will often enter into a compulsive pursuit if ego-gratification and things to identify with in order to fill this hole they feel within. So they strive after possessions, money, success, power, recognition, or a special relationship, basically so that they feel better about themselves, feel more complete.”
What are included in ego identification? “the most common ego identifications have to do with possessions, the work you do, social status and recognition, knowledge and education, physical appearance, social abilities, relationships, personal and family history, belief systems, and often also political, nationalistic, racial, religious, and other collective identifications.”
名、利、權以至卓越及成就,當然和自我ego 密切相關。我們盡情創造的,也可能是親密關係,甚至高層次的意義、價值,然而這些也是自我的呈現。



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